Endings and Beginnings

Endings always bring new beginnings. September is the ninth month of the year and Pythagoras, the father of math, tells us the number nine brings endings and completions so new things can start. Many times, we see endings as disappointments and we hold on as long as we can. I like to see endings as graduations. When I have completed a chapter of my life, I’ve learned its time to let go and move on. These transitions can involve many things like careers, relationships, and even life. They were once very important but are now complete.

The story of the phoenix teaches us the lesson of endings and beginnings. In Greek mythology, the phoenix is a mythological bird that regenerates its own life. When it felt its impending death, the phoenix would ignite itself into a magnificent fire. Later, it reemerged from its own ashes, reborn. The phoenix knows that endings always inspire new beginnings. It knows when to let go!

I’ve learned if I can let go when it’s time, endings bring a great sense of freedom. In the past, I’ve held on way too long and it was painful. I knew deep down that it was time, but I didn’t want to accept it. I didn’t know what my new beginning would look like, so I felt it was safer to stay. I also didn’t know how to do endings gracefully with love and compassion.

September brings a lot of memories as I reflect on what was and what will be. I have my 50th high school reunion in September. Fifty years ago, I had a major ending in my life with high school graduation. In September 1968, new beginnings started when I began college. September makes me think about all the other chapters of my life that have ended so I could start something new. I believe all endings and beginnings are an adventure that should be celebrated.

Endings really hit home for me this last week. One of my classmates, Jack, died suddenly of a massive heart attack in the middle of the night. I had not seen him since our last reunion and was so looking forward to reconnecting with him. We went through all twelve grades of school together and were good friends. At the last reunion we talked about getting together; he even sent me an email to connect. I was busy with my life and business and put off responding. Now he is gone. A few of us went to his reviewal and then out to dinner. We toasted Jack and celebrated his life. I know Jack is beginning a new adventure.

For me, September is about remembering the lessons of ebb and flow, endings and new beginnings. I celebrate each day as an amazing adventure to be lived to the fullest with passion and purpose. Endings are sure to happen because a new adventure is right around the corner. Let’s celebrate!